His Dating Diary: Why Guys Love the Thrill of the Chase - MSN Relationships - article

Sounds like you and guys like you need a good psychiatrist! You are probably a sex addict and O.C.D. and extremely lazy and have a low self image and no self esteem. Do us all a favor and leave woman alone until you have mentally recovered and are safe for women to be around! Oh, and, grow up

I said women, not teenage girls. Women (adult women) appreciate honest men with common sense that are not players. If you are in an abusive relationship, LEAVE! How old are you? If you are going to stay with an abusive woman you have to accept her for who she is. Acceptance is a very powerful thing. If you don't like the abuse get out. You were looking for a gal when she came along. There are others out there that would appreciate a man like you. I know I would! I dated a man exactly like the one in this article. He would call me 100 times a day. Wanted to know everything about what I was doing and begged me to come home because he missed me sooo much. Would get angry if I didn't answer the phone at 3 a.m. when I was trying to sleep. Then at times he was very evasive. I was always out of town a lot as my work took me all over the country and was gone for several weeks to a month at a time. He told me I was the only one, but there were really 7. He was a very busy man. When I saw his cell phone bill there would be a call to me then a call to one of the seven, then to another and antother, just hoping to score that night. When my job changed I was home all the time. He made excuses not to see me. All along he had been "chasing" me, but when it was over he wanted nothing to do with me. I am a slim size 2, attractive woman that exercises daily and eats a very strict healty diet. He failed to tell me for two years that he had a 10 yr long relationship with a gal that he had also cheated on me with. Not to mention the other six posssibly more because he lies to me so he won't hurt me he said. About that time he got the "LETTER". The one that says "YOU HAVE BEEN NAMED THE FATHER OF A CHILD" , please take a paternity test or go to jail. He told me a million times and would even scream at me that his ten yr long relationship gal was just a F— — K buddy. That she was just a piece of a— _. No commitment, responsibility, love, or work to the relationship. Thats what made it so attractive he said. I ran into her one day quite by accident and she weighs a good 350 lbs!!!! Not attractive or even had much between her two ears. He would have had to have some feelings or love to be with her.This made me instantly have no respect for him. Realized he had very poor judgment as he told me he had had sex with over 120 women and was only 27 yrs old!!! The first thing I did after recovering from the "LETTER" was help him back his bags and sent him back to his parents house where he had always lived being a " chaser". He said he had never paid for anything because his parents did everything for him which gave him the time and freedom to "CHASE WOMEN". He spent all his money on women and beer at the bars trying to score. As soon as one would take him up on it he would have sex then usually dump them rather quickly as it just wasn't exciting for him after he caught her. I caught him in so many lies it was mind blowing, oh and along with his sex addiction he had and the need for porn several times a day. As soon as he was gone I went straight to the doctor to be tested. Fortunately we only had sex less than 10 times in two years because the stress of the change in his lifestyle from being a "chaser" to being in a committed relationship made him not want to have sex either. So I got a clean bill of health. I was lucky! The relationship left me very lonely and sad that we could never have any intimacy or ever really build a realtionship due to his rule"There has to be boundaries in the bedroom"!!! I use to get so upset because he never made any sexual advances at me and would reject me if I made some toward him. The more I learned about this odd fellow, the more it made sense. He was just not right. His lifestyle that his parents made so easy for him to develope has ruined him from ever having a normal life. He says he wants to settle down but never have children because it's too much responsibility. Imagine that! He has the mentality of maybe a 12 yr old! He would tell me he wanted to marry me. LOL! I don't want to marry a guy that is only attracted to the "chase" and not a real person, or someone who doesn't want to have sex. Everything about him was fake, lazy, irrational, and childlike. Not attractive. So, I know all to well how the guy is that wrote this article. He needs therapy. My ex finally went. Don't know if it has helped or not and don't even care at this point. I knew if I stayed it would be a terrible, lonely life with the "Chaser" as I doubt he would ever change. He didn't in two and a hlf years.